The heart overcomes suffering by becoming bigger than it. Not by getting rid of it.
This is the final thought that I garnered from Ajahn Sucitto’s talk in Lisbon at the end of last month.
And I’ve had to have a few weeks to really understand the significance of this - for me.
Teaching mindfulness over many years I have circled around the idea a lot. Rather than ‘getting rid’ of emotions or painful memories, I have trained myself (and encouraged others) to open up to them and sit with them; to create a safe space in our meditation practice where it’s ok to feel strong emotion and also clock the fact that strong emotion passes.
When we try and hurry experience along out of our life too quickly then it has a habit of returning and returning.
And yet, I have also been conscious of very subtle (and not so subtle) levels of ‘getting rid of’ going on in my psyche.