Submitted by alistairappleton on Fri, 17/01/2014 - 10:25am.
"Loneliness is no particular colour - a mountain of black pines on an autumn evening." Bashō.
As I proposed in the earlier blog, loneliness is co-created by the society we live in. There are other cultures, for example, where solitude (loneliness’ twin) is considered highly-prized. The early Buddhists saw sitting alone under a forest tree or in a mountain cave as being a perfect place to be. Similarly, the 17th century Zen poet, Bashō made much of the quality of sabi which he saw as the underlying quality of all human existence; a bitter-sweet solitude which was colourless and profound. Thoreau, living alone out on Walden pond in the America of the 19th century, also prized his experience, turning our idea of loneliness up on its head: “I have a great deal of company in my house; especially in the morning, when nobody calls.”
Submitted by alistairappleton on Thu, 16/01/2014 - 9:04am.
This is a series of essays on a subject that i’m interested in exploring in 2014: loneliness. Last year at Mindsprings we concentrated a lot of anxiety and how mindfulness can work to lessen the pain around this ubiquitous experience. This year I would like to concentrate on loneliness.
Submitted by alistairappleton on Mon, 23/12/2013 - 9:22pm.
Ram Dass, faced by a rather smug bunch of his students, once said: "You think you're enlightened? Go and spend a week with your parents.."
Ajahn Sumedho, perhaps the most pre-eminent Western teacher in the Thai Forest Sangha tradition, abbot of many monasteries, and often seen as a the successor of Luang Por Chah, left the Thai forest to travel back to the USA to look after his ailing father for the holidays. When he opened the door to Sumedho, 6'7" in his resplendent ochre robes, the father snarled: "I don't care who you think you are elsewhere. Here, in this house, I am boss. Understood?"
Christmas is the most powerful time to observe that particular human magnetism that we call the Family Gathering and the effect it has on our mind.
Submitted by alistairappleton on Tue, 19/11/2013 - 10:20am.
The heart overcomes suffering by becoming bigger than it. Not by getting rid of it.
This is the final thought that I garnered from Ajahn Sucitto’s talk in Lisbon at the end of last month.
And I’ve had to have a few weeks to really understand the significance of this - for me.
Teaching mindfulness over many years I have circled around the idea a lot. Rather than ‘getting rid’ of emotions or painful memories, I have trained myself (and encouraged others) to open up to them and sit with them; to create a safe space in our meditation practice where it’s ok to feel strong emotion and also clock the fact that strong emotion passes.
When we try and hurry experience along out of our life too quickly then it has a habit of returning and returning.
And yet, I have also been conscious of very subtle (and not so subtle) levels of ‘getting rid of’ going on in my psyche.
Submitted by alistairappleton on Tue, 12/11/2013 - 8:39am.
There is a Nibbana element.
This was a completely new idea to me. The Buddhist worldview is that there is a World made up of the four elements - water, fire, earth, and air. And that our bodies are a temporary constellation of these consituent elements that return to these base materials after death. A Western scientific notion might be that we are all atoms, temporarally constellated, only to dissolve back into carbon, oxygen etc. once we die.
The idea that Nibbana is part of the mix was not an idea I had heard up till that point.
Submitted by alistairappleton on Sun, 10/11/2013 - 10:03pm.
The fifth thought that I recall from Ajahn Sucitto’s talk touches on how time creates suffering:
Nibbana is the abolition of the future.
This arose in reply to that meditator who had been struggling with the sense of ‘so what?’ in his practice. Sucitto was talking about the very subtle levels of stress that occur as soon as we ‘intend’ something. As soon as the mind constructs a future with our intentions unfolding out into it then we are away from the present source of happiness. We believe ardently (but foolishly from a Buddhist point of view) that thinking and planning and policing our future will makes us happy. Infact, counter-intuitively, it’s the thing that is making us unhappy.